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		<title>NewStory Church</title>
		<description>NewStory Church is a diverse, growing faith community in downtown Los Angeles. Our mission is to help people fall deeper in love with Jesus and reach 1% of LA in His name. Join us for in-person Sunday services at 9 AM &amp; 11 AM PT (150 W. Jefferson Blvd.) or online at 11 AM PT. We offer ministries for kids, youth, college students, young adults, and creatives, along with local outreach through “We Love LA.”</description>
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			<title>Why Is Money Never Enough?</title>
						<description><![CDATA[You earn more than you used to. The raise came, the title changed, the account is bigger than it was five years ago. And the strange part is that the old knot in your stomach never left. You assumed the stress was about not having enough, so you went and got more, and the stress stayed exactly where it was, unimpressed.You are not bad with money, and you are not imagining it. You have run into one...]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Tue, 21 Oct 2025 10:18:00 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<section class="sp-section sp-scheme-0" data-index="24" data-scheme="0"><div class="sp-section-slide"  data-label="Main" ><div class="sp-section-content" ><div class="sp-grid sp-col sp-col-24"><div class="sp-block sp-social-block " data-type="social" data-id="0" style="text-align:left;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-social-holder" style="font-size:23px;margin-top:-0px;"  data-style="icons" data-shape="rounded"><a class="youtube" href="https://www.youtube.com/@NewStoryChurch" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-youtube"></i></a><a class="instagram" href="https://www.instagram.com/newstory.la/" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-instagram"></i></a><a class="facebook" href="https://www.facebook.com/newstorychurchla" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-facebook"></i></a><a class="podcast" href="https://tr.ee/PxsJHr3fEF" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-podcast"></i></a><a class="envelope-o" href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6472212776364508a70f6c7c" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-envelope-o"></i></a></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-image-block " data-type="image" data-id="1" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-image-holder" style="background-image:url(https://storage1.snappages.site/4HWGSS/assets/images/24579441_1536x1024_500.jpg);"  data-source="4HWGSS/assets/images/24579441_1536x1024_2500.jpg" data-shape="roundedmore" data-fill="true" data-shadow="subtle"><img src="https://storage1.snappages.site/4HWGSS/assets/images/24579441_1536x1024_500.jpg" class="fill" alt="" /><div class="sp-image-title"></div><div class="sp-image-caption"></div></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="2" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">You earn more than you used to. The raise came, the title changed, the account is bigger than it was five years ago. And the strange part is that the old knot in your stomach never left. You assumed the stress was about not having enough, so you went and got more, and the stress stayed exactly where it was, unimpressed.<br><br>You are not bad with money, and you are not imagining it. You have run into one of the oldest patterns there is, the one Jesus named when he said wealth is deceitful. Not evil, not dirty, deceitful. It makes promises it has no power to keep, and you cannot feel it lying to you while it happens.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="3" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="4" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >The Lie You Can't Feel</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="5" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Jesus once described seed that fell among thorns and was choked before it could grow. He named the thorns. One was the worries of life, easy to spot. Another was raw desire, also easy to spot. But the middle one he called the deceitfulness of wealth, and that one is different, because deception hides by nature. The bigger it is, the less aware of it you are.<br><br>Notice he did not warn about money. He warned about the deceitfulness of money, which means the danger is not your bank account but what your bank account quietly promises. And it makes the same promises to nearly everyone.<br><br>The first is that the next thing will finally make you happy. The new car, the bigger house, the better label, and the ache goes quiet. You already know how that ends, because there are tags still hanging in your closet on things you were sure you needed, purchases that thrilled you for two hours and then went silent. "Life does not consist in an abundance of possessions," Jesus said. No one has ever bought their way into a full one.<br><br>The second is that you deserve it. You worked hard, nobody sees how hard, others do less and somehow have more. Maybe that is all true. It still changes nothing, because deserving a thing and affording it are two different questions. One is a feeling, the other is math, and when the feeling runs the math, the math loses.<br><br>The third is that money will fix whatever is wrong. Stressed, take the trip. Tense at home, buy more space. But money usually hides the real problem instead of solving it. You are not stressed because you cannot afford a vacation. You are stressed because you are living a half-step beyond your means and forever catching up.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="6" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="7" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Your Money Problem Is Usually a Heart Problem</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="8" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">You can watch this in something as ordinary as the size of a house. A few generations ago it was normal to raise three or four children in under a thousand square feet. Today many families raise one or two in more than fifteen hundred, and it still feels cramped. What changed was not anyone's needs. It was their expectations. The goalpost moved a few feet every year, quietly enough that no one noticed, which is exactly how deception works. It never announces itself. It just convinces you, one comfortable upgrade at a time, that more is normal and you are the one falling behind.<br><br>This is why more income so rarely fixes the feeling. The problem was never the number. Money makes a fine tool and a miserable master, and most financial stress is the sound of a tool trying to run the whole house.<br><br>The way out is not a number either. It is something the apostle Paul said he had to learn. "I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances," he wrote, and the word that matters is learned. Contentment is not a mood that arrives when the balance finally hits some magic figure. It is built slowly, by deciding again and again that what you have been given is enough. That is the one decision the next raise can never make for you, which is exactly why the next raise was never going to be the answer.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="9" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="10" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Frequently Asked Questions</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="11" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="10" style="height:10px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="12" style="text-align:start;padding-top:5px;padding-bottom:5px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Is it wrong to want nice things or to be wealthy?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="13" style="padding-top:5px;padding-bottom:5px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">No. The Bible does not condemn wealth, and by any historical measure most of us are already wealthy. The warning is about the deceitfulness of wealth, the way it promises things it cannot deliver. The danger is not the size of your account. It is what you are quietly trusting it to do for you.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="14" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="15" style="text-align:start;padding-top:5px;padding-bottom:5px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Does the Bible say money is the root of all evil?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="16" style="padding-top:5px;padding-bottom:5px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Not quite, and the difference matters. The actual line is that the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Money itself is neutral. It is the love of it, the trust placed in it, that does the damage. You can be poor and consumed by it or wealthy and free of it.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="17" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="18" style="text-align:start;padding-top:5px;padding-bottom:5px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Why doesn't more money make me less stressed?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="19" style="padding-top:5px;padding-bottom:5px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Because the stress usually is not about the amount. A raise lifts the baseline you measure against as fast as it lifts your pay, so comparison keeps the goalpost moving and the relief evaporates. The number was never the thing that needed to change.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="20" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="21" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Next Step</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="22" style="padding-top:5px;padding-bottom:5px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">If this struck a nerve, go deeper. Explore our Faith and Finance series for an honest, guilt-free look at handling money in a way that actually sets you free.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-media_library-block " data-type="media_library" data-id="23" style="text-align:start;padding-left:0px;padding-right:0px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-media-library"  data-source="series" data-title="Faith & Finance" data-layout="grid" data-pagination="true" data-labels="true" data-page="1" data-limit="12" data-value="391ecb5a-fd90-42cb-bc8e-b2a3febcce35" data-total="4">
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			<title>Why Is It So Hard to Make Friends as an Adult?</title>
						<description><![CDATA[Most people don’t expect friendship to become difficult.As kids, friendships seem to happen naturally. You sit next to someone in class, join the same team, live on the same street, or end up in the same group project. Before long, you’re spending time together without really trying.Then adulthood arrives, and something changes.You move to a new city. Your schedule fills up. Work becomes demanding...]]></description>
			<link>https://newstorychurch.com/blog/2025/08/11/why-is-it-so-hard-to-make-friends-as-an-adult</link>
			<pubDate>Mon, 11 Aug 2025 19:56:00 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<section class="sp-section sp-scheme-0" data-index="35" data-scheme="0"><div class="sp-section-slide"  data-label="Main" ><div class="sp-section-content" ><div class="sp-grid sp-col sp-col-24"><div class="sp-block sp-social-block " data-type="social" data-id="0" style="text-align:left;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-social-holder" style="font-size:23px;margin-top:-0px;"  data-style="icons" data-shape="rounded"><a class="youtube" href="https://www.youtube.com/@NewStoryChurch" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-youtube"></i></a><a class="instagram" href="https://www.instagram.com/newstory.la/" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-instagram"></i></a><a class="facebook" href="https://www.facebook.com/newstorychurchla" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-facebook"></i></a><a class="podcast" href="https://tr.ee/PxsJHr3fEF" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-podcast"></i></a><a class="envelope-o" href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6472212776364508a70f6c7c" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-envelope-o"></i></a></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-image-block " data-type="image" data-id="1" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-image-holder" style="background-image:url(https://storage1.snappages.site/4HWGSS/assets/images/24578095_1536x1024_500.jpg);"  data-source="4HWGSS/assets/images/24578095_1536x1024_2500.jpg" data-shape="roundedmore" data-fill="true" data-shadow="subtle"><img src="https://storage1.snappages.site/4HWGSS/assets/images/24578095_1536x1024_500.jpg" class="fill" alt="" /><div class="sp-image-title"></div><div class="sp-image-caption"></div></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="2" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">There is a kind of loneliness that does not look like being alone. You have coworkers, a calendar that fills itself, a phone that buzzes all day. And then one evening you are driving home, the city sliding past the window, and it occurs to you that you cannot remember the last time someone called for no reason other than to ask how you were. Not a text about logistics. Not a thumbs-up on a photo. A person who simply wanted to know how you are doing.<br><br>It catches people off guard, because friendship did not always take this much effort. As kids it mostly happened to us. You sat beside someone in class, joined the same team, lived on the same block, and somewhere in all that repetition a friend appeared without anyone deciding to make one. College ran on the same fuel, throwing the same faces together day after day until closeness was almost inevitable. Then adulthood arrives, and the scaffolding that quietly built those friendships comes down one piece at a time, until one day you notice it is gone.<br><br>If that is where you are, the first thing worth hearing is that you have not failed at adulthood and nothing is wrong with you. This is one of the most common experiences adults carry, and they carry it quietly, usually while assuming they are the only one. Even here in Los Angeles, a city of millions, it is entirely possible to spend a week surrounded by people and still feel like no one really knows you. The ache is real, but it is not a verdict on you. It is a feature of how modern life is built, and once you see how it works, it stops feeling like a personal defect and starts looking like something you can actually do something about.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="3" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="4" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >When the Scaffolding Comes Down</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="5" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">For most of our early lives, connection was a byproduct of structure. School placed us in the same room with the same people for years at a stretch. College added late nights, shared meals, and the unplanned hallway conversations that turn acquaintances into friends. Even a first job often dropped us into a cluster of people roughly our age, all figuring life out at once. None of it took much intention, because the environment did the work for us.<br><br>Adult life rarely offers that. The days fill with work done largely alone, commutes spent in traffic, errands, and responsibilities that did not exist a decade ago. The people we do see are often there for some reason other than friendship, a meeting, a transaction, a pickup line at school. We can move through an entire week brushing past hundreds of people and never once cross the line from proximity into actually knowing someone. And that line is the whole point. The challenge of adult friendship is almost never finding human beings, who are everywhere. It is finding the few who know you, the ones you can call when life falls apart at midnight and who celebrate loudest when something finally goes right.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="6" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="7" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >You Can Be Lonely in a Full Room</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="8" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Here is the strange contradiction of our moment. We have more ways to stay in touch than any generation in history, and loneliness keeps climbing anyway. The reason is that connection and community are not the same thing, even though we tend to treat them as if they were. You can watch someone's life scroll past all day, react to their photos, trade quick messages, and know a great deal about what is happening to them without ever sharing life with them. Knowing about a person is not the same as being known by one.<br><br>The problem is not really the technology. It is that we have lost the slow rhythms that grow real relationships. Friendship has always been built out of repeated conversations, shared experiences, small moments of honesty, and the trust that gathers when someone keeps showing up. None of that can be rushed. It develops at the unhurried pace of presence, which is exactly what a busy adult life leaves the least room for. So when the friendships do not appear, people turn the explanation inward. Everyone else must already have their group. Everyone else must have figured this out. Maybe it is just harder for me. It is a quiet, corrosive story, and it is almost always false. Step into nearly any room and you will find it full of people telling themselves the very same thing, each one sure they are the only outsider.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="9" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="10" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >You Were Built for This</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="11" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">It helps to know the longing itself is not a flaw to fix. It is part of being human. In the opening pages of Scripture, long before anyone spoke of social media or an epidemic of loneliness, God looks at a person who has every good thing around him and says something is still missing, that it is not good for him to be alone. The first thing ever called not good in the story of creation is isolation, which is a striking place to put the emphasis.<br><br>The rest of the Bible only deepens it. Spiritual life is almost never pictured as a solo pursuit. People grow by encouraging one another, challenging one another, carrying each other's burdens, and walking through hard seasons side by side. The old wisdom puts it plainly, that two are better than one, because when one falls down the other can help him up. We were not designed to white-knuckle life by ourselves, and the desire for someone in your corner is not neediness. It is the design working as intended. This is why community sits so close to the center of a healthy life of faith. We need people who can remind us of hope when we have lost it, steady us when we are struggling, and notice God at work in our lives when we are too close to see it ourselves.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="12" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="13" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >It Begins With One Step You Don't Feel Ready For</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="14" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">The frustrating part is that meaningful friendship almost always begins with a moment that feels awkward. Walking into a room where you know no one is intimidating. Introducing yourself to a stranger feels exposed. Showing up alone to a group that already seems to know each other can make you want to turn around at the door. And yet nearly every deep friendship you admire started in exactly that uncomfortable place. The people who now look effortlessly connected were once on the outside too, wondering whether they would fit. What set them apart was not some reserve of confidence the rest of us lack. It was a willingness to take one small step toward people before they felt ready, and then to take it again.<br><br>Friendship rarely arrives all at once. It accumulates. One conversation becomes a few. One shared experience becomes a rhythm. Strangers become familiar faces, and familiar faces, given enough time, become the people you cannot imagine life without. It is slower than anyone wants and more rewarding than most people expect, and it does not take a crowd. You do not need hundreds of relationships or a packed calendar. You need a few people who know your name and your story and are willing to keep showing up, and finding them usually starts with a single step taken before the nerves have fully settled.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="15" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="16" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Frequently Asked Questions</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="17" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="10" style="height:10px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="18" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="19" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Because the structures that once created friendship for free, like school, college, and early jobs, mostly disappear in adulthood. Without that built-in proximity, connection now has to be chosen on purpose, and a life full of work, commuting, and responsibilities leaves little room for the slow, repeated time real friendship needs. The difficulty is circumstantial, not a sign that something is wrong with you.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="20" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="21" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Is it normal to feel lonely even when I'm around people all the time?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="22" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Yes, and it is far more common than people admit. Being around people is not the same as being known by them. You can interact with dozens of coworkers, neighbors, and acquaintances every week and still lack the deeper relationships where you feel truly seen. Loneliness is about the absence of connection, not the absence of company.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="23" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="24" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>How do adults actually make new friends?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="25" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Through consistency more than charisma. Meaningful friendships grow out of repeated, low-pressure time around the same people, the same group or room or set of faces, week after week, until familiarity becomes trust. The practical move is to put yourself in a setting that keeps bringing you back around the same people, and then to keep showing up even when it feels slow at the start.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="26" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="27" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Does the Bible say anything about loneliness and friendship?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="28" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Yes. From the very beginning, Scripture treats human connection as essential rather than optional. The first thing ever called "not good" in the creation story is a person being alone. Throughout the Bible, people are meant to grow together, encouraging and carrying one another rather than going it alone, which frames the desire for community as part of how we were made instead of a weakness.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="29" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="30" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>How can I find community in Los Angeles?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="31" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Look for places built around regular, repeated gathering rather than one-off events, since consistency is what allows friendship to form. Smaller groups organized around a shared season of life or interest tend to work best. At NewStory Church, that includes <a href="/lifegroups" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>Life Groups</u></a>, <a href="/youngadults" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>Young Adults</u></a>, <a href="/college" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>College Ministry</u></a>, and <a href="/cr" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>Celebrate Recovery</u></a>, each designed to help people in LA find real belonging rather than just another room full of strangers.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="32" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="33" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Next Step</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="34" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">If you are tired of carrying this quietly, the next step does not have to be dramatic. It can be as small as walking into one room. At NewStory Church we build spaces made for exactly this, including <a href="/lifegroups" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>Life Groups</u></a>, <a href="/youngadults" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>Young Adults</u></a>, <a href="/college" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>College Ministry</u></a>, and <a href="/cr" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>Celebrate Recovery</u></a>, each one created to help people move from feeling surrounded to actually belonging. You were not meant to do life alone, and you do not have to start figuring this out by yourself.</div></div></div></div></div></section>]]></content:encoded>
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			<title>Can Christians Go to Therapy?</title>
						<description><![CDATA[For many Christians, therapy feels like a question beneath the question.The real question is often this: If my faith is strong enough, shouldn’t that be enough?Maybe that’s why so many people wrestle with guilt before they ever step into a counselor’s office. They wonder if needing help means they’ve failed spiritually. If they prayed more, trusted more, or believed more, would they still feel anx...]]></description>
			<link>https://newstorychurch.com/blog/2025/06/08/can-christians-go-to-therapy</link>
			<pubDate>Sun, 08 Jun 2025 18:32:00 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<section class="sp-section sp-scheme-0" data-index="44" data-scheme="0"><div class="sp-section-slide"  data-label="Main" ><div class="sp-section-content" ><div class="sp-grid sp-col sp-col-24"><div class="sp-block sp-social-block " data-type="social" data-id="0" style="text-align:left;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-social-holder" style="font-size:23px;margin-top:-0px;"  data-style="icons" data-shape="rounded"><a class="youtube" href="https://www.youtube.com/@NewStoryChurch" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-youtube"></i></a><a class="instagram" href="https://www.instagram.com/newstory.la/" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-instagram"></i></a><a class="facebook" href="https://www.facebook.com/newstorychurchla" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-facebook"></i></a><a class="podcast" href="https://tr.ee/PxsJHr3fEF" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-podcast"></i></a><a class="envelope-o" href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6472212776364508a70f6c7c" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-envelope-o"></i></a></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-image-block " data-type="image" data-id="1" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-image-holder" style="background-image:url(https://storage1.snappages.site/4HWGSS/assets/images/24577607_2000x1493_500.png);"  data-source="4HWGSS/assets/images/24577607_2000x1493_2500.png" data-shape="roundedmore" data-fill="true" data-shadow="subtle"><img src="https://storage1.snappages.site/4HWGSS/assets/images/24577607_2000x1493_500.png" class="fill" alt="" /><div class="sp-image-title"></div><div class="sp-image-caption"></div></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="2" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">You may have typed the question into your phone late at night, in a tab you half hoped no one would see. Can a Christian go to therapy? It is the kind of thing people ask quietly, after the house has gone still, because saying it out loud feels like admitting something. And underneath it sits a second question that is even harder to voice. If my faith were real enough, strong enough, shouldn't I be okay by now?<br><br>That second question is where the weight actually lives. A lot of people carry a private set of beliefs about what faith is supposed to do. Good Christians don't fall apart. I should be able to pray this away. What would people at church think if they knew how anxious, how exhausted, how stuck I really feel? So the guilt arrives long before the appointment does, and for some people it keeps the appointment from ever being made at all.<br><br>But that guilt tends to rest on a misunderstanding of both faith and healing. The two were never meant to compete, and needing help with your mind is no more a spiritual failure than needing help with your body. It is worth slowing down to see why.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="3" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="4" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >God Often Works Through People</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="5" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Throughout Scripture, God consistently works through ordinary people and ordinary means. He gives wisdom through counselors, encouragement through friends, healing through physicians, and direction through trusted leaders. We rarely treat this as a contradiction anywhere else in life. When someone breaks a bone, we pray and we go to the doctor. When someone faces a serious illness, we ask God for healing and we work with the people trained to treat it. Almost no one reads the act of setting a broken bone as a sign of weak trust in God.<br><br>Emotional and mental health deserve that same logic. Seeing a therapist does not mean you are trusting God less. It can simply mean you are receiving help through one of the many channels God uses to provide it. Faith and therapy are not rivals, because they are answering different questions. Faith speaks to who God is and who you are in relationship to him. Therapy helps you understand your patterns, process what has hurt you, and build healthier ways of carrying what you carry. For a great many people the two work side by side, each doing something the other was never designed to do.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="6" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="7" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Struggle Is Not a Sign of Weak Faith</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="8" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">One of the most quietly comforting things about the Bible is that it never airbrushes the struggles of the people in it. David wrestled with fear and wrote some of his rawest words from the floor of it. Elijah, right after one of the great mountaintop victories of his life, was so exhausted and despairing that he asked to die. Jeremiah carried grief so heavy that he became known for it. These were not minor figures with shallow faith. They were among the most faithful people in the entire story, and they moved through seasons of confusion, sorrow, and despair without ever losing their place in God's hands.<br><br>That matters, because many Christians privately believe spiritual maturity should make them immune, that a stronger believer would not battle anxiety, depression, or burnout. The Bible tells a more honest story than that. Following Jesus does not exempt anyone from suffering; it promises that you will not face it alone. God's nearness has never been measured by the absence of struggle. More often it is discovered right in the middle of one.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="9" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="10" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Healing Was Never Meant to Be a Solo Journey</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="11" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Maybe the biggest obstacle to healing is the quiet conviction that we should be able to handle everything ourselves. We admire self-sufficiency, treat independence as a virtue, and somewhere along the way we start hearing the words "I need help" as a confession of weakness. But that was never the design. From the very beginning, people were made for relationship, for community, for a few trusted others who can see what we cannot see in ourselves.<br><br>Sometimes that support comes from a pastor, sometimes from a friend, sometimes from a recovery group, and sometimes from a trained therapist equipped for exactly this kind of work. The common thread running through all of them is not weakness. It is humility. Healing usually begins the moment we stop performing fine and let someone walk with us toward something better. The strongest people are rarely the ones carrying everything alone. They tend to be the ones secure enough to invite others in.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="12" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="13" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >What Therapy Actually Is</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="14" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Part of what makes the question so frightening is that many people are picturing something that does not match reality. Therapy is not lying on a couch while a stranger decides what is wrong with you, and it is not a verdict that you have been declared broken. At its most basic, it is a structured conversation with someone trained to help you see what is hard to see on your own, to untangle the patterns you keep repeating, to process pain that has been sitting unaddressed, and to build practical tools for carrying life with more steadiness. It has more in common with physical therapy for the inner life than with anything dramatic.<br><br>It also does not ask you to choose between your faith and your healing. A good therapist will not try to talk you out of what you believe, and many therapists either share that faith or hold deep respect for it. If it matters to you to work with someone who understands the spiritual side of your life, you can look specifically for a licensed Christian therapist, ask your church or pastor for <a href="https://newstorychurch.com/mentalhealth#therapists" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>trusted referrals</u></a>, or simply tell a prospective therapist up front that your faith is central to you and notice how they respond. It is completely normal to meet with more than one person before you find the right fit. Searching for help you can trust is not a lack of faith. It is good stewardship of the one mind and heart God gave you.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="15" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="16" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Grace, Not Shame</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="17" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">If you have been wondering whether it is okay for a Christian to go to therapy, the answer does not start with shame. It starts with grace. God is not disappointed by your need for help, not surprised by your struggle, and not standing at a distance waiting for you to fix yourself before he will come close. The invitation of Jesus has always been the same three words: come as you are.<br><br>So if therapy helps you process pain, work through a hard season, heal from old wounds, or simply move toward steadier ground, reaching for it is not a sign that you have failed. It may be one of the wiser and braver steps of faith available to you. You were never meant to carry all of it by yourself, and admitting that out loud might be the most honest prayer you have prayed in a long time.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="18" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="19" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Frequently Asked Questions</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="20" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="10" style="height:10px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="21" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Is it a sin for a Christian to go to therapy?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="22" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">No. Nothing in Scripture forbids seeking help for your mind or your emotions, and a great deal of it encourages wisdom, counsel, and care from others. Therapy is one of the ways people receive that help. Going does not signal a lack of faith any more than seeing a doctor for a physical illness does.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="23" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="24" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Does going to therapy mean my faith is weak?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="25" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">No. The Bible is full of deeply faithful people, including David, Elijah, and Jeremiah, who walked through fear, exhaustion, and grief. Struggle is part of the human experience, not proof of spiritual failure. Being honest about what you are carrying and seeking help for it takes humility and courage, which are marks of maturity rather than weakness.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="26" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="27" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Can faith and therapy work together?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="28" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Yes, and for many people they work best together. They address different things. Faith speaks to your identity and your relationship with God, while therapy helps you understand your patterns, process pain, and develop healthier ways of coping. One does not replace the other; the two can move alongside each other in the same healing journey.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="29" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="30" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>What does the Bible say about anxiety and depression?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="31" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Scripture does not treat these as taboo or as evidence of weak faith. It gives voice to them honestly, from David's fear to Elijah's despair, and it consistently points people toward God's presence and the support of others in the middle of those struggles. It offers comfort and companionship rather than shame, and it never asks anyone to pretend they are fine.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="32" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="33" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>How do I find a therapist who respects my faith?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="34" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Start by deciding whether you want a therapist who shares your beliefs or simply one who respects them, since both can serve you well. You can search directories for <a href="https://newstorychurch.com/mentalhealth#therapists" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>licensed Christian therapists</u></a>, ask your church or pastor for trusted referrals, or tell any prospective therapist that your faith is important to you and pay attention to how they respond. It is normal to try more than one before finding the right fit, and looking for someone you trust is part of doing this well.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="35" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="36" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Should I talk to my pastor or see a therapist?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="37" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">It does not have to be one or the other. A pastor can offer spiritual guidance, prayer, and care, while a <a href="https://newstorychurch.com/mentalhealth#therapists" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>licensed therapist</u></a> is trained to help with mental and emotional health in ways pastoral support is not designed to cover. Many people benefit from both. If you are facing persistent anxiety, depression, or distress, a trained professional is an appropriate and healthy place to turn.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="38" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="39" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Explore More Mental Health Resources</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="40" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Questions about anxiety, depression, burnout, counseling, and faith are deeply personal, and you do not have to sort through them alone. If you are looking for guidance, encouragement, or a practical next step, explore NewStory's <a href="https://newstorychurch.com/mentalhealth" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>Mental Health Resource page</u></a> for messages, articles, and trusted resources created to help you navigate life's challenges with hope.<br><br><b>Explore the Mental Health Resources</b> → <a href="https://newstorychurch.com/mentalhealth" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>newstorychurch.com/mentalhealth</u></a></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="41" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="42" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2'  data-size="3em"><h2  style='font-size:3em;'><b>Watch Messages</b></h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-media_library-block " data-type="media_library" data-id="43" style="text-align:start;padding-left:0px;padding-right:0px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-media-library"  data-source="series" data-title="The Gospel & Mental Health" data-layout="grid" data-pagination="true" data-labels="true" data-page="1" data-limit="12" data-value="d04c3170-4d34-404a-a1d6-d453c9440ec4" data-total="5">
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			<title>Can You Follow Jesus and Still Have Questions About Sexuality?</title>
						<description><![CDATA[For many people, questions about sexuality are not theoretical.They are personal.They involve friendships, family members, coworkers, children, neighbors, and sometimes our own stories. They touch identity, relationships, faith, belonging, and the desire to be fully known and fully loved.Because of that, conversations about sexuality often feel different from other theological discussions. They ca...]]></description>
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			<pubDate>Mon, 20 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<section class="sp-section sp-scheme-0" data-index="38" data-scheme="0"><div class="sp-section-slide"  data-label="Main" ><div class="sp-section-content" ><div class="sp-grid sp-col sp-col-24"><div class="sp-block sp-social-block " data-type="social" data-id="0" style="text-align:left;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-social-holder" style="font-size:23px;margin-top:-0px;"  data-style="icons" data-shape="rounded"><a class="youtube" href="https://www.youtube.com/@NewStoryChurch" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-youtube"></i></a><a class="instagram" href="https://www.instagram.com/newstory.la/" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-instagram"></i></a><a class="facebook" href="https://www.facebook.com/newstorychurchla" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-facebook"></i></a><a class="podcast" href="https://tr.ee/PxsJHr3fEF" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-podcast"></i></a><a class="envelope-o" href="https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6472212776364508a70f6c7c" target="_blank" style="margin-right:0px;margin-top:0px;"><i class="fa fa-fw fa-envelope-o"></i></a></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-image-block " data-type="image" data-id="1" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-image-holder" style="background-image:url(https://storage1.snappages.site/4HWGSS/assets/images/24578299_1535x1024_500.jpg);"  data-source="4HWGSS/assets/images/24578299_1535x1024_2500.jpg" data-shape="roundedmore" data-fill="true" data-shadow="subtle"><img src="https://storage1.snappages.site/4HWGSS/assets/images/24578299_1535x1024_500.jpg" class="fill" alt="" /><div class="sp-image-title"></div><div class="sp-image-caption"></div></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="2" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">There is a question a lot of people carry to the door of a church long before they ever step inside. It rarely gets said out loud. It sits quietly underneath the decision to visit, the hesitation over the online service, the half-finished reply to a friend who invited them. For many people that question has to do with sexuality, whether it is their own story, the story of someone they love, or simply an honest uncertainty about how faith and this part of life fit together. And the worry underneath it is not theological at first. It is far more personal than that. Is there room for me here, as I actually am, with the questions I actually have?<br><br>This is why conversations about sexuality so often feel different from other discussions about faith. They are not theoretical. They involve friendships, family members, coworkers, children, neighbors, and sometimes our own lives. They touch identity, relationships, belonging, and the deep human desire to be fully known and still fully loved. So people are usually asking something more than "what does the Bible say." Beneath the surface are the questions that actually keep them up at night. Can I belong here? Will I be accepted? If I disagree, will I still be welcomed? Can I be honest about what I am still working out?<br>Those are deeply human questions, and they deserve far more than a quick answer or a sound bite.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="3" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="4" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Why This Conversation Feels So Heavy</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="5" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">One reason these conversations feel so difficult is that they tend to become conversations about people before they ever become conversations about ideas. It is one thing to debate a topic in the abstract. It is another thing entirely when the conversation involves someone you love, and another still when it involves your own story. That is why the subject can turn emotional so quickly. It touches places of vulnerability, fear, hope, disappointment, and longing, and those are not places that respond well to being argued with.<br><br>For a lot of people, then, the real challenge is not understanding a particular belief. It is wondering whether there is still space for them while they are figuring things out. Many assume they have to arrive at total certainty before they are allowed to walk through the doors, that church is a place for people who already have everything resolved. But that is almost the opposite of how people actually met Jesus in the Gospels. They came to him with confusion, with doubts, with misunderstandings, carrying complicated histories and unanswered questions, and again and again he made room for them rather than turning them away at the threshold.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="6" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="7" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Position Is Not the Same as Posture</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="8" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">One of the most important things any of us can learn is that position and posture are not the same thing. A position answers the question, what do we believe? A posture answers a different question, how do we treat people? Both of them matter, and a healthy faith refuses to trade one for the other.<br><br>Throughout its history, the church has held convictions about Scripture, marriage, ethics, and what it means to follow Jesus, because what is true genuinely matters. But Jesus modeled something just as important alongside his commitment to truth. He showed that truth was never meant to be pried apart from love. People who felt overlooked or pushed aside kept finding themselves welcomed into conversation with him. He listened. He asked questions. He showed compassion. He saw the people everyone else had learned to look past. His posture did not erase what he believed; it revealed the heart underneath it. In a world that constantly pressures us to pick a side between conviction and compassion, Jesus kept refusing the choice and holding both.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="9" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="10" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >What We Learn From Jesus</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="11" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Read the Gospels slowly and one pattern becomes impossible to miss. Jesus was remarkably approachable. The people who disagreed with him approached him anyway. So did the ones who doubted, the ones with complicated stories, and the ones who felt about as far from God as a person can feel. The religious leaders of his day kept expecting him to draw sharper lines and build higher walls. Instead, he kept moving toward people.<br><br>That does not mean he avoided hard conversations or softened everything he said. He often spoke challenging and demanding truths. But he had a way of speaking them that drew people closer rather than driving them off. This matters, because so many people today carry the assumption that church is only for those who already have it all sorted out. Jesus paints a different picture entirely. His invitation was never "figure everything out first, then come." It was simply, "follow me." For most people, understanding comes later. Growth comes later. Clarity comes later. The first step is usually nothing more than a willingness to begin the journey at all.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="12" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="13" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >If You Are Unsure About Church</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block " data-type="text" data-id="14" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">For a lot of people, the hardest part of church is not deciding whether to show up. It is wondering what will happen once people actually know their story. What if you still have questions? What if you are not sure what you believe? What if parts of your life feel complicated or unresolved, and you suspect that honesty might cost you your welcome?<br><br>Here is the freeing reality. Faith does not begin with having everything figured out. It begins with a willingness to be honest. A church is not meant to be a room full of people who have arrived; it is a community of people learning, often imperfectly and often slowly, how to follow Jesus together. Some of the most meaningful journeys of faith do not start with certainty at all. They start with a single, honest question, and the courage to ask it out loud.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="15" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="16" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Frequently Asked Questions</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="17" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="10" style="height:10px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="18" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Can you follow Jesus and still have questions about sexuality?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="19" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">Yes. Faith has never required arriving at total certainty before you begin. In the Gospels, people came to Jesus with doubts, questions, and complicated stories, and he consistently welcomed them into the conversation rather than turning them away. Questions are not a barrier to following Jesus. For most people they are part of how the journey actually unfolds.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="20" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="21" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Do I have to have my beliefs figured out before going to church?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="22" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">No. The idea that church is only for people who already have everything resolved is common, but it does not match how faith usually grows. Church is meant to be a place for people who are learning, including people who are still uncertain or still working through hard questions. The first step is honesty, not having all the answers.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="23" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="24" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>Will I be welcome at church if I disagree or am still questioning?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="25" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">At NewStory, our hope is that you would find a place where questions are genuinely welcomed and conversations can happen with honesty, humility, and respect. We believe people deserve more than sound bites or simplistic answers to complex questions, and that every person carries dignity and worth because every person is made in the image of God. You do not have to agree with everything to be treated with that kind of care.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="26" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="27" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>What does it mean that "position" and "posture" are different?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="28" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">A position is what a person or church believes to be true. A posture is how they treat the people around them, especially those who see things differently. Both matter. The point is that holding convictions and treating people with compassion were never meant to be opposites, and Jesus consistently demonstrated both at the same time.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="29" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="30" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h3' ><h3 ><b>How did Jesus treat people who were unsure or different?</b></h3></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="31" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">He moved toward them. The Gospels repeatedly show people who felt far from God, who doubted, or who carried difficult histories approaching Jesus and being met with attention and compassion rather than rejection. He did not avoid hard truths, but he spoke them in a way that invited people closer instead of pushing them away.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="32" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="20" style="height:20px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="33" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2' ><h2 >Continue the Conversation</h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-text-block  sp-scheme-0" data-type="text" data-id="34" style=""><div class="sp-block-content"  style="">This article is part of our <a href="https://newstorychurch.com/thegospelandsexuality" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>Gospel and Sexuality resource collection</u></a>, where we explore questions surrounding faith, identity, relationships, discipleship, and what it means to follow Jesus in the world today. <br><br>We believe meaningful conversations require both truth and grace, and that they are better had in relationship than in a comment section. If you would like to keep learning, listening, and exploring, we invite you to visit the complete <a href="https://newstorychurch.com/thegospelandsexuality" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>Gospel and Sexuality resource page</u></a> and engage with the messages, discussions, and stories that shaped this series.</div></div><div class="sp-block sp-spacer-block " data-type="spacer" data-id="35" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="spacer-holder" data-height="30" style="height:30px;"></div></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-heading-block " data-type="heading" data-id="36" style="text-align:start;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><span class='h2'  data-size="3em"><h2  style='font-size:3em;'><b>Watch Messages</b></h2></span></div></div><div class="sp-block sp-media_library-block " data-type="media_library" data-id="37" style="text-align:start;padding-left:0px;padding-right:0px;"><div class="sp-block-content"  style=""><div class="sp-media-library"  data-source="list" data-title="The Gospel & Sexuality" data-layout="grid" data-pagination="true" data-labels="true" data-page="1" data-limit="12" data-value="edb5ecdd-6f87-43a6-8074-6f9ebbd0f557" data-total="5">
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